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A note from the GOACA sickbed

natalie wood

Excuses in advance if things are a little slow this week: I had a bunch of posts conveniently prepared in advance before I got sick, but am now working to bring myself up to speed while still not feeling 100%. Meanwhile, this picture of Natalie Wood pretty much sums up the last week at GOACA HQ: just nonstop glamour with me and the dogs, fine china, and very strong antibiotics. Tell me, because I’m craving entertainment: what the most exciting thing that has happened to you so far this year?

Posted on February 26th, 2018 84 Comments

Valentine’s day special: Tales of very bad dates

broken heart

I have been working on the chapter of my book in which I discuss dating, and having to face all of my romantic misadventures in one place has put me in a rather cynical state of mind vis a vis love.  The truth is, I’ve only had a handful of truly bad dates (although, somehow, many bad boyfriends) and they were bad in pretty boilerplate ways—men who wouldn’t stop talking about their ex-wives, or stop talking, period.  I realize this might sound rather bush league by some standards, so please, bring me your absolute worst.

Posted on February 14th, 2018 86 Comments

What are are you loving on TV?

the crown

I ask because I inhaled seasons one and two of The Crown, and then watched Victoria—also quite good—but now I have to wait for new episodes of that (I have never been a big fan of the monarchy or period dramas, but now I can’t get enough. Go figure). Right now I’m catching up on season four of Broad City but not loving it as much as I’ve loved previous seasons. Suggestions?

Posted on January 29th, 2018 194 Comments

What is a fact about you that nobody would guess?

anthony weiner

True story: I was once fixed up with Anthony Weiner by a mutual friend. This was pre-scandal, pre-Huma, when he was just a very ambitious Congressman (the mutual friend no longer speaks to him, as you might imagine). The friend threw a dinner party, the sole purpose of which was to get us together. It did not go well. Your turn.

Posted on January 22nd, 2018 174 Comments

Week of requests: On living alone

The #1 weapon in the fight against loneliness

“This may be completely off the mark, but as someone who is recently divorced and living alone at 43, I would love to see a `Best things about living alone’ sort of thing, writes a reader named Jenn. I find this not at all off the mark, Jenn, and imagine you are not alone in the GOACA community. I’ve been on my own since I left my marriage in 2004, which is by now a long time ago. And I don’t give much thought to the fact that I live alone because I am just so busy doing it. And yet sometimes I feel triply marginalized in this culture—I am single, childless, and nearing my mid-50s, and often this makes me feel badly out of step with my friends and even, in certain ways, my family.  But dwelling on that will get a person absolutely nowhere, so I try to focus on the things I like about going through life uncoupled. Like the fact that I can do whatever I choose when I choose to do it, and I never have to cook if I don’t want to. I find that one key to being on your own is to always be open to new friendships, something we naturally just stop doing once we reach a certain age. But, like Jenn, I’m very curious to know: those of you who are single, please share your favorite things about your current life in the comments (and to those of you who are coupled: what do you most miss about being on your own?)

Posted on January 12th, 2018 131 Comments

Week of requests: What was the best thing you spent money on in 2017?

I spend a lot of time in this room

A reader named Dakota suggested that I ask this question of the GOACA community, and I’m very curious to hear your answers. Was it a big-ticket article of clothing that suddenly makes your whole wardrobe come together? A vacation? A visit to the dermatologist for fillers? Your divorce? As for me, the best cash I spent last year, hands down, was on unlimited classes at my yoga studio.

Posted on January 5th, 2018 196 Comments